Untangling Investments After Divorce: What Every Woman Needs to Know Before Making Big Moves
Divorce doesn’t just divide a household.
It can leave your finances—especially your investments—feeling like a big tangled mess.
I’ve worked with so many women who say things like,
“I walked away from the marriage, but now I don’t even know what I walked away with.”
And that’s okay.
There’s no shame in not having all the answers. You’ve just been through something major—emotionally and financially. You don’t need to figure it all out overnight. But you do deserve clarity.
Here’s where to start.
1. Take Inventory
Before you make any changes, you need to know what’s actually in your financial picture.
Do you have a 401(k) from a previous job you forgot about?
Were you awarded part of your ex-spouse’s retirement account?
Are there investment accounts you co-owned or that got divided?
Even if you worked with an attorney, things can get fuzzy.
It’s okay to sit down, pull statements, and take stock. This isn’t about judgment—it’s about taking back control.
2. Understand What a QDRO Is (and Why It Matters)
If you were awarded part of your ex’s retirement account, you likely need a Qualified Domestic Relations Order—aka a QDRO.
This legal document tells the plan administrator to split the retirement account and transfer your portion to you without triggering taxes or penalties.
Just having it written in your divorce papers isn’t enough. You need the QDRO to actually get the money moved into your name.
Important:
🚫 Don’t withdraw funds or move anything yourself until that transfer is officially processed.
The penalties and taxes can be steep, and a few weeks of patience can save you thousands.
3. Update Ownership and Beneficiaries
Once you know what’s yours, it’s time to clean it up.
Make sure:
Your name is listed as the sole owner
You’ve updated the beneficiaries on every account (including old IRAs, 401(k)s, life insurance, and even your will or trust)
It might feel awkward or emotional, but updating these details protects your future self—and keeps your ex from unintentionally inheriting anything.
4. Don’t Rush Big Investment Changes
This part is important.
After divorce, it can be tempting to blow everything up—move all the money, cash out accounts, or try to start over from scratch.
But pause.
You’ve been through a lot.
It’s okay to sit with what you have, breathe, and take your time before making major decisions.
Once you’re ready, then we look at how your investments can support the life you want now—not the one you were building before.
5. Work With Someone Who Gets It
You don’t have to do this alone.
And you don’t have to figure it all out from scratch.
This is exactly what I help women with—especially after divorce. We untangle the money, rebuild your plan, and create a path forward that feels clear, doable, and empowering.
There’s no shame in feeling overwhelmed.
But there is power in taking the next step.
If you’re ready to have clarity and want guidance on the best path forward, let’s chat! You can schedule a free consultation or send me an email.
Divorce can leave you feeling overwhelmed, but you don’t have to do it alone. I’m here to help you navigate it step by step!
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